Ultimate Guide to Catch a Cheater | All You Need to Know to Catch them Cheating Today..

If you are here, then you have a “gut” feeling of cheating. Like the rest of us that you feel that something is not right. It doesn’t matter what you tell yourself or what you do, you can’t shake this feeling.

I cannot say that we all have been there, but I can say that you are not alone. There are millions of people searching this subject, me included. I am going to share with you the Ultimate guide. We are going to go over the questions we asked during this time. Why: Why do you feel this way? The How: How do I catch this person? The What: What do I do after I find out if they are cheating or not? Also the When: When do I put my plan in action to find the truth?

Below are some reasons of why people cheat

Ultimate Guide to Catch Him or Her Cheating | Table of Contents

*Signs your being Cheated on
Technology
Emotionally Distant
Increase in Arguments
Spending Less Time
Sexual Desire
Accuses you of Cheating
*How to Catch them Cheating
You have to keep track.
Banking Records
Be Unpredictable
Pay for Results.
*Private Investigator
What is a Private Investigator going to do for you
*Tech Spying
*GPS Tracking
Mobile Spy

These Items are important to either leave a terrible relationship or realize that you have some inner problems that you need to work with. Either way I’m here with you to walk you through this.

I have spent countless hours reading and researching this topic. There are so many suggestions and ideas on catching them cheating. I wanted to make an easy one stop shop for you. This way you don’t have to do what I did and spend hours reading and going crazy without putting anything into action.

Signs your being Cheated on

The First thing to do is know the Signs You a are Being Cheated On.

There are many different variations of cheating. I will do my best to cover them all. We will go over this as we cover the signs you should be open to, as you recognize that you might be being cheated on.

Technology

1st. In Today’s time technology brings us closer than ever before. We spend the majority of our day looking at how people are spending their day. With this the opportunity to build a relationship with someone else is easier than ever.

If you notice that your significant other is guarding their phone like a hawk. Meaning, they will not let their phone out of their site. The last thing they do and the first thing every day is be on their phone. In today’s times, people wake up immediately, go to their phone then the bathroom.

If you spouse is anyway like this. Always attached to their phone than you need to watch how they guard their phone. If they never let you look over their shoulder or they act very particular every-time the phone rings. These are signs that something maybe going on. ask yourself some of these questions.

Do they allow you to use their phone?

Are they willing to share their passwords?

When the phone rings do they pick and choose when to answer it?

Does the phone ring at odd times?

When they do answer the phone, do they get quite or walk out of the room to communicate?

Is their phone always on silent or put their phone face down?

These are signs that your love interest is not interested in you knowing Who or What they talk about. While this is not a guarantee that they are cheating. It is a significant sign that they are not open fully about their personal life without you.

Emotionally Distant

Another easy sign is emotional distance. If you are reading this than I’m sure you have already experienced emotional closeness. Otherwise you would be feeling this way now. Being in a relationship takes consistent communication and nurturing of each others feelings. This means being in tune with one another.

Simple things like, remembering an important event and calling to see how things went. It could even include something as simple as knowing that you enjoy watching certain TV shows and making sure to be there to watch together. There are many subtle things that are done everyday to bring that emotional closeness that we all crave.

When you lover becomes emotionally distant many things begin to change. You immediately notice that your partner is less in-tune with what is important to you and your feelings. Here are some of the signs for you to look at.

Your alone time is much less than it used to be.

Communication between each-other is no longer clear.

Willingness to spend time with you doing the little things that you enjoy are less.

These are very good indications that this person is not into what is important to you. If you used to spend a-lot of time in this area and noticed that this got cut short. There is a reason to be concerned. Even-though we cannot say yet if it is cheating, we do know that there is an emotional detachment that has accrued between you and your other.

In normal circumstances people do change over time and tend to gradually drift into other areas of interest. But when you have a change that seems almost overnight without explanation than this is alarming.

Increase in Arguments

While there are going to be times of differences inside any normal relationship. There will be a noticeable time when it just seems that your Love is “picking fights”. A healthy relationship is going to consist of many disagreements ranging from: How messy you keep your room to more major like; How you communicate with each others parents. Etc.

What ever the disagreement, naturally we find an avenue of peace and then a makeup period. This is a normal cycle with two people growing and learning things separately and together. Being emotionally distant is something that we have to look at carefully because it could be a range of reason why this can occur. examples like: death in the family, loss of job, aging crisis. it is important to look at all reason why this can occur. But we are going to look at the more infidelity part of what this may look like.

A big reason for this is Guilt. Yes Cheaters feel guilt. They feel guilty because they know they are getting away with something that is completely wrong for your relationship. Meaning, even-though they continue cheating, they feel bad inside for the deceitfulness it takes to keep up a side-relationship.

In order to spend time with someone else they have to lie to you about it. They have to make plans with someone else and put you second to their own selfish feelings.

So Guilt is a reason your spouse maybe starting arguments. This is a self mechanism that we as people use to rationalize the reason for us being a cheat. It’s how a cheater finds excuses to make themselves feel better for what they are doing. A cheater may get upset because the TV show that you two watched every Sunday and snuggle together, is no longer interesting. This is because their new lover is more into sports or music.

So now they are having attitudes over things that they enjoy doing with someone else but cannot because they are with you now.

Arguments are also used as tools to separate themselves from you to get where they really want to go. Many times a cheater will “Start a Fight” just so they can have an excuse to leave and be up under the person who is really of their interest at the moment.

This is a big sign that something is wrong within your relationship. Be very aware if your GF/BF is picking fights for any little thing or at least thing that was not an issue earlier in the relationship.

Spending Less Time

More often than not another sign is your spouse is not interested in spending time together. Many of the items listed before are indications and precursor to this. A cheater only has 24hrs a day, just like the rest of us. Being able to open up a whole new section of time for someone else is difficult. It means that they are going to have to cut time from somewhere else. You best believe that this time is going to be cut from you. You are going to see a brand new routine emerge and it is not going to include you.

This is where you need to have your eyes open all the way. This part can lead to some significant clues as to How you can get proof. What you will notice is they will show signs like:

Spending more time with friends or new friends that you are not aware of.

Have activities that the two of you do not communicate about.

Encourage you to find activities that do not involve the two of you.

There will be alot more things that just “Came Up”, and plans will be cancelled.

They will have more work at their job to do.

This list can go on forever. A cheater is going to have a million reasons why they cannot spend time with you and they will make them all seem legit. (Take notes, we will take more about this later) What you need to look at is the whole picture and not get caught up emotionally and forget to look at what maybe causing this behavior.

Sexual Desire

Carrying on multiple relationships is absolutely draining, even for a veteran cheater. You have multiple people who you have to tell multiple stories too. Also you have to remember these stories and be an excellent planner to fit you deeds inside everyone else’s schedule.

With that said it is very easy for your Lover’s desire to dwindle and dwindle fast. Not to mention that they absolutely could be getting their full share somewhere else. In all reality it doesn’t matter that their desire has left because they are being with someone else physically or they are just spending large amounts of their free time somewhere else.

For men and for wemon a big part of sexual desire is having something exciting, fresh and challenging. Once these things leave your relationship it can open the doors for people to explore other curiosities. As hard as it is to say this is normal human nature. Keep en eye our for.

I’m tired and not in the mood right now.

Maybe tomorrow

Why do we always have to talk about sex

You don’t know how to turn me on anymore.

These are just examples of statements said. keep in mind that they may have some validity to them and doesn’t cement that your partner is cheating. but note that these are your most common areas of excuses.

Accuses you of Cheating.

A cheater is so focused on enjoying themselves and not getting caught, that they don’t have the time themselves to focus on your everyday activities. They are so self-conscious of what they are getting away with that they become over-jealous that you maybe cheating.

The cheater forgets that you don’t know that they are cheating. The lines between truth and lies start to blend together. They start wondering how are you this happy together, when I’m always lying and spending time with someone else. Strangely enough, they start to think if you are ok with what I’m doing than you must be cheating.

This is when internally the begin to rationalize that you are also being satisfied by someone else. Here begins the accusations of you being a cheater.

If you suspect your BF/GF of cheating than all of a sudden you are the one being accused. Make sure that you do not lose focus on their actions amidst of defending yourself. It is very easy to get caught up and have the tables turned.

This can also be a tactic to keep tabs on you to make sure they have the free time to spend with other people. It is very difficult to cheat when you do not know where your spouse is going to be every second of the day.

There are more signs that you lover could be cheating on you, but you need to be in-tuned with your relationship. Every relationship is different and has its own balance.

How to Catch them Cheating.

This part is going to take more balance of your emotions than you maybe ready for. It is highly recommended that you follow all these steps before your begin your accusations, unless you have the red-handed. Once you let your spouse know that you are on to them. They are going to take a big step back and completely change the way they are doing things. This will either slow your process down or cut your chance of finding out.

You have to keep track.

The best thing you can do is invest in a $1 notebook and use it every day. You need to mark down everything. Even when you don’t think that it may be significant you need to note it. you never know who information is going to be the key to putting the puzzle together.

make sure that you mark the date and times of all incidents and conversations being had. Yes this is a huge task and something that cannot be taken lightly. During this time you are going to be full of emotions although you will need to be able to decipher facts. it is very easy to get confused or even have your train of thought changed when in the heat of an argument.

Make sure that you write down as many details as you can. Also Do not delete any calls or let messages. It is so easy for us to get angry and delete all our proof of whats happening because we want to remove them from our phone.

Banking Records

If you have access to banking records. You want to keep track of all you monthly statements, ATM slips, and car mileage. All records along with your text messages and your notes can put together a very accurate timeline of what is said and what may have really happened.

Be Unpredictable.

Now is not the time to continue the same routine. You need to be as unpredictable as possible. When you are being cheated on, your cheater is relying on you doing the same thing over, day in and day out.

The moment you become unpredictable they can no longer rely on being comfortable knowing that your routine. This is going to include things like;

Tell you partner that you are going to be working late and show up early.

Make plans to go out-of town and have you plans cancelled at the last minute.

When your spouse calls to check on your schedule, make sure that you leave your time frame open.

Write down your daily routine. to the minute and change it!

There is so much power to catching a cheater when they do not know your every move. Make sure that you take extra care into creating a whole new you. It is very important to stop sharing every detail of your whereabouts. Think about it, if your partner shared every singe detail you wouldn’t be feeling this way in the first place.

Information is power the less they know the more power that YOU have. When a cheater knows your every move that can make sure that they are going to be everywhere you are not. When they don’t know where you are it makes it 100x’s harder for this cheater to maneuver or make mistakes and that is exactly what we want.

Pay for Results.

When all else may fail an area that you want to look at is paying for results. Lets face it, we cannot be the same at the same place every time it is needed. We have a life outside of chasing a cheater. it can get very hectic trying to balance a difficult personal life and a career at the same time. So these next suggestion will cost money. But the obtaining the results are easier than having to do the work yourself. You can also take these tactics and apply them to your plan for catching you partner cheating. These are only suggestions, everyone’s path to to the truth is different.

Private Investigator

A PI can be so much more beneficial to what you are trying to carry-out. They not only free up much more of your time. They can take away some of the emotional distress that you may be having during this time period. That alone can help you communicate and find the small everyday inconstancy that you may not be able to see while searching for the bigger picture.

Again, you have to understand that this is going to be a very emotional time for you. Your mind is always going to be running 100 different directions. They Help from a Private Investigator is going to to be able to take the emotions out of the situation and look for the logical truth.

What is a Private Investigator going to do for you.

A PI is going to find the facts. They are not going to “sugar coat it” or give you only what they think you are going to be able to handle. once you hire a PI he is going to get the exact facts of you “person of interests” whereabouts. I have spoken with many PI’s in order to put together the best detailed information for you. What I have learned is that majority of the time your lover is innocent. But we are not talking about those times, we are talking about now and how you fell.

Right now yo need to know if you are just going “CRAZY” or if your inner self is correct. This is exactly what a private Investigator is here for “Peace of Mind”.

Private detectives typically do the following:

Interview people to gather information.

Do various types of searches, using computer or non-computerized records.

Conduct surveillance. (looking for, following, or watching a person without that person noticing)

Collect evidence to present in court.

Verify employment, income, and facts on a person’s background.

Investigate computer crimes, such as identity theft and illegal downloads.

Help in cases of criminal and civil liability, missing-persons cases, and insurance claims and fraud.

Tech Spying

While Tech spying may not cost you as much as hiring a Private Investigator. It will give you more information and at a very fast pace. The difficulty with using Tech Spy tactics is that it will take a learning curve.

You will be feeling like you are wasting valuable time on learning these new technologies when you should be getting down to the truth. just know that the huge amount of worry-free information that can be soon to follow after successfully setting up one of these methods can get your answers in a matter of days or weeks.

There is multiple applications that can do this. Today we are going to go over two types, not the services themselves. There is too many companies out here advertising. I want to let you know what devices are going to give you the best results. From there you can choose your own provider. We may give some recommendations at the end of this article.

GPS Tracking.

Oh yes.. GPS tracking. This service here is going to let you know where you spouse’s “car” is at at all times. You will know withing the nearest 500ft and that is depending upon the product that you choose.

GPS is good tracking because it will give you peace of mind at those moment when you are, stuck at work, stuck in traffic or you lover just decides to fall of the map and not answer the phone.

We are gong to talk about the upside and the downfall all at once. The Upside is, where ever that vehicle goes you will know. It will not matter what they say to you are what time of day it is, you will know where that vehicle is at. I personally like that it will give you so much more confidence and peace in knowing more than you should.

Another great point to this is that it allows you to check on your partner’s “word”, meaning are they really doing what they say they are doing. Now i will stop for a moment to tell you that it is very important that you do not go to an extreme.

Remember that you got this device to find out if they are cheating, not all the “little things people lie about.” Yes, you will discover your partner’s “little lies” all the time they said they were at work, at the gym, or just going to the store. You are gong to find out real quick that they are lying.

How to use your GPS

Make sure you don’t blow it and decide to call them on these little lies that we tell. You are looking for the big picture, Who are they spending time with and are they cheating. It is so easy to get mad to know that they are lying to you. But keep in mind that none of us tell the “exact truth” we are close and some better than others.

Use GPS for the time that you cannot get ahold of your lover.

GPS is good to use to drive past the location of their vehicle is and see if this is a place you are aware of.

GPS will show you the habits of your lover.

A GPS tracking device will help make sure you are “not around” when they think you should be. (this can be a good tactic to set up a trap.

Here are some of the drawbacks to GPS. First off, I’m sure you don’t know how it use it. This is going to take a crash course in GPS location devices. This means researching the best device. How is the devices used? Where to place the device? Also Mobile GPS devices are battery operated. So guess what??? You are going to be spending alot of time sneaking around you spouse’s car, attaching and removing this device as well as charging and monitoring this device.

With that said in no way am I telling you that this device is not worth it. You can save so much time in heartache and pain using GPS. Also you can totally screw everything up and look like a straight stalker!

when it comes to finding out if your lover is cheating, it may seem that anytime not spent on finding out the truth is time wasted. You need to understand that a cheater is not just going to stop all of a sudden. You have to be patient and in this situation I’m talking from experience and from hundreds of professionals.

Take the time to learn how your device works. Try tracking yourself for a couple of days to get used to how it looks. The last thing you want to do is make the wrong accusation and either ruin your relationship or ruin a chance to catch that cheater in the act.

Mobile Spy

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